RDMA/cxgb4: Lock around accept/reject downcalls

RDMA/cxgb4: Lock around accept/reject downcalls

There is a race between ULP threads doing an accept/reject, and the
ingress processing thread handling close/abort for the same connection.
The accept/reject path needs to hold the lock to serialize these paths.

Signed-off-by: Steve Wise <swise@opengridcomputing.com>
[ Fold in locking fix found by Dan Carpenter <dan.carpenter@oracle.com>.
  - Roland ]

Signed-off-by: Roland Dreier <roland@purestorage.com>