IPoIB: Don't drop multicast sends when they can be queued

IPoIB: Don't drop multicast sends when they can be queued

When set_multicast_list() is called the multicast task is restarted
and the IPOIB_MCAST_STARTED bit is cleared.  As a result for some
window of time, multicast packets are not transmitted nor queued but
rather dropped by ipoib_mcast_send().  These dropped packets are
painful in two cases:

 - bonding fail-over which both calls set_multicast_list() on the new
   active slave and sends Gratuitous ARP through that slave.

 - IP_DROP_MEMBERSHIP code which both calls set_multicast_list() on the
   device and issues IGMP leave.

In both these cases, depending on the scheduling of the IPoIB
multicast task, the packets would be dropped.  As a result, in the
bonding case, the failover would not be detected by the peers until
their neighbour is renewed the neighbour (which takes a few tens of
seconds).  In the IGMP case, the IP router doesn't get an IGMP leave
and would only learn on that from further probes on the group (also a
delay of at least a few tens of seconds).

Fix this by allowing transmission (or queuing) depending on the
IPOIB_FLAG_OPER_UP flag instead of the IPOIB_MCAST_STARTED flag.

Signed-off-by: Olga Shern <olgas@voltaire.com>
Signed-off-by: Or Gerlitz <ogerlitz@voltaire.com>
Signed-off-by: Roland Dreier <rolandd@cisco.com>