We would occasionally BUG out in the reply handler because r_reply was
nonzero, due to a race with ceph_mdsc_do_request temporarily setting
r_reply to an ERR_PTR value. This is unnecessary, messy, and also wrong
in the EIO case.
Clean up by consistently using r_err for errors and r_reply for messages.
Also fix the abort logic to trigger consistently for all errors that return
to the caller early (e.g., EIO from timeout case). If an abort races with
a reply, use the result from the reply.
Also fix locking for r_err, r_reply update in the reply handler.